Six Wedding Traditions and How They’ve Changed
The rise and fall of wedding traditions…
According to Office of National Statistics (2014), couples in the UK spend over £10 billion on weddings each year. While the financial value of a wedding has steepened in the last century, the traditional values associated with the big day have also changed substantially. Wroxall Abbey, one of most popular Warwickshire wedding venues has focused on six wedding traditions which have developed or in some cases become extinct in recent years.
Asking Father’s Permission to Marry his Daughter
Asking for the Father of the brides’ permission is a tradition which been around for centuries. Many grooms to this very day will still seek their future father-in-law’s approval or permission before popping the question to their loved one.
However, over the past few decades, this tradition has declined in popularity. Asking the bride’s father for his permission first is seen by many as an outdated practice which asserts male dominance over the bride, seeing her as a possession to be passed from one male to another. On the other hand, many see this as a romantic custom which should be upheld. This is definitely one tradition that looks like it’ll be up for debate for many years to come.
Father of the Bride Pays for the Wedding
The tradition that the bride’s family pay for the wedding is derived from the notion of a dowry. In the past women weren’t allowed to live on their own, work outside the home or own property. An unmarried daughter was a considerable burden, especially for families living at or near the subsistence level. To remove this burden, her family would pay a man to marry her. Women are now fully independent – luckily for the father of the bride, he no longer has to foot the bill alone.
Cutting the Wedding Cake
This has always been a popular tradition, however, many will be surprised to know that this has become more popular over time and more people are said to cut the wedding cake together than they did in the 20th Century. It is also worth noting that more couples tend to opt for a sponge wedding cake as opposed to the traditional fruit wedding cake.
Wearing a White Wedding Dress
The wearing of a white wedding dress as we all know symbolised the virginity of the bride. While this tradition remained sacred right into the 20th Century, it is fair to say it no longer is applicable within non-religious marriages.
Throwing the Bouquet of Flowers
This tradition came into being when other women attending the wedding would try and take a piece of the bride’s dress or flowers as a token of luck. To avoid any hard feelings in the 21st Century, the bride throws her bouquet of flowers into a crowd of her bridesmaids and female attendees to pass on the luck of marriage.
Going on a Honeymoon straight after Wedding
While many still do leave straight from their wedding to their honeymoon retreat, many now use donated proceeds from their guest’s wedding gifts to pay for their honeymoons. Otherwise, those who do not have the money to afford a lavish honeymoon straight after their big day, many embark on a mini-moon, a small romantic break before their more adventurous honeymoon experience.